Can't Take No For An Answer

I love persistance and a no give up attitude, but when approaching a woman or man, it's really all about presentation.

So I will share with you my holiday pick up experience and albeit I'm inclined to reveal the persons nick name (that was a number of a favorite size of a tire), I'll be good and won't.

I went to church for a woman's day function and I had to stop to get gas. This stranger approaches me. I tell him before he even starts to talking that whatever he's selling I'm not interested. He states he wasn’t selling anything, but he thought I was a fine honey and that I should take his number to talk some more.

I'm not interested, I repeat again

He insists.

I lie and say I'm married hoping he doesn’t check and see I'm not wearing a ring.

He doesn’t because he has the nerve to reply, "He won't mind you havin’ friends. I just want to be a friend. You look like a nice smart girl and I like talking to girls like you."

The fact that he referred to me as a girl irked me to no end. I ask , "Would you want your wife to have men as friends?”

He answered, "No."

"But you think it would be okay if I accepted you as a friend."

He said, he would make a good friend to me. Of course his eyes were not on my face and I really wanted to go home and take a shower.

I tell him, I'm not interested and he sucks lustfully on his row of gold teeth and say, “why you gotta be a fucking bitch?”

I stop pumping my gas and give him direct eye contact and ask, "Why I gotta be a bitch since science doesn’t say I’m any part of a dog? Unless that was your intention to call me a female dog.”

He says, no.

“So why couldn’t I be just called an evil woman or even a hateful woman? Maybe you should have used a bigger word like wretched, despicable, reprehensible or even my favorite invidious. I don’t mind being called something that I am if that is your opinion because this great nation gives us this right to say our opinion however we want.”

He gives me this look like he wants to smack me, but he must of realized that albeit he’s able to say whatever is on his mind, he cannot hit me for my intelligence because not only would that be illegal, but it would make him feel like a bigger idiot.

I force myself to keep a straight face and watch his every movement. We aren’t in a safe neighborhood (but what is a safe neighborhood in Detroit, LOL) so I’m not crazy to assume I’m safe. He sucks those gold teeth again and walks away.

I finish at the gas station and drive away.

I’m always amazed and shocked at how men won’t take no for an answer. No matter what circumstances you give them and it makes me angry and disgusted that the sanctity of marriage is disrespected as such.

Would that be why the divorce rate is so high? Because people don't really care anymore that they are married and aren't acting like married peoples? I don't know and I'm part to the statistics so I can't even talk albeit I left after an immense amount of physical and mental abuse and then later on found out after I left he had been seeing his baby momma to begin with and told everyone he was marrying her just days after I packed up my things and left. A month later he sold everything - even the baby's brand new bed since i didn't have space to take it with me and moved down with her.

But that's in the past right and I'm just going O/T on you.

Even when I was married or even when I'm telling the guy i'm happily involved with someone guys out there still don't stop. Now what makes you think if I could just disrespect my relationship with another man that I'll respect our relationship once you get me if I do something like that. And if you have the nerve to talk to me knowing I'm with someone or married to someone, then why wouldn't you do it to me and start talking to someone else once you became bored with me.

Do guys (and I've wondered this a lot) really think this out when they approach a "girl?" Or are you led by the brain between your legs more or less.

Now I know it probably takes a very confident soul to approach a woman and I'm honored that he made that attempt, but I can't be even remotely appreciative of the approached.

All in all, I hope this isn't what's to c ome to the New Year.

I hope you have a wonderful 2007!

Sylvia Hubbard

http://SylviaHubbard.com

Author and Blogger of How To Love A Black Woman!

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Superman Can Be My Baby’s Daddy

I saw Superman Returns. The baby (4-year old JD) is in love with anything that flies so she was telling me and my son to hush like she had paid her own good money to see the movie whenever we talked.

Anywho, I couldn’t post this right away because if you hadn’t seen the movie, I would have spoiled it for you, but as soon as you saw that little boy, you just knew Superman was the daddy.

Can you imagine that? Having sex with the man of steel? He ain’t scared of nothing. So you know his freaky butt can’t have any inhibitions. LOL. (Closing my eyes and thinking about having extreme mile high sex OUTSIDE of a plane! WHHHHEEEWWWW!)

But I’d be kind of terrified that he’d like get into the heat of the moment and just pile drive me to death. (He took me screaming, “Tear it up!” literally, LOL).

I know, I’m sick, but hey, I’m just saying what others are thinking.

But I didn’t write this post to speak bad about Baby Daddy’s so men don’t you dare click off yet.

I wrote this to complain about the men who aren’t the baby’s daddy’s and stepping up your game.

You see that single mother with unruly kids. Go over there and reprimand those bad azz kids. She needs all the help she can get.

It takes a community to raise a child and if you see a child doing wrong, let them know.
Sometimes a hard look or a booming voice (that you men love to shout at your women with) does wake a child up.

My baby’s don’t have their sperm donors in their life. But they have my father and my brother. I love to see how they like to take my son under their wing and get him to do right. All I gotta do is call my father and tell him, “I’m ‘bout ready to kill this boy!” He comes rushing over or my son will be reprimanded very soon and very harsh by my father.

When my children are at school, they know if I don’t get them, I’m sending someone up to the school to do it. I’ve often even made my brother in law check on the kids when he’s in the area. My children never know who will show up and when while they are at school and I like knowing I keep them on point like that.

Now back to being a mentor.

I applaud the men who actually take steps to make a difference in a child’s life. Whether it is your children or some others, know that in the future you are making a major difference in the lives of our youths.

It’s so very needed.

To all the others who think that you could care a fig’s butt about the little bastards running around and terrorizing people and property around the neighborhood – as long as they don’t harm yours – you are taking up space on this planet and sucking up all the good air.

Yeah, I said it!

You are wasting your life and your talents. You are selfish. You have no regards for your own race. You should be ashamed of yourself and you… (I just erased something very mean and cruel, but I’m going to save that comment for later).

There’s so many opportunities in this world that you could afford to help a child.
You don’t have to be Superman. You just have to be a real man.

I DON'T WANT TO FALL IN LOVE

I wrote this piece in response to a guy who said some pretty awesome compliments to me and I decided to post it because then I received other "suitors" that said some really nice things to me and wanted to "Hook up." This is rather general and I took out the specifics of what they said. I know the title is rather harsh and cruel, but I have meaning to my madness or maybe I'm just mad.

Your words were very sweet and touching. I was honored by the compliments and blushing at the possibilities.

Yet, at this time In my life as I work hard on my literary endeavors I am trying to not to involve myself with anyone for several reasons:

1) I want to devote a lot of time to my children. These are their important years where i can make a real difference in their lives and I have to make the sacrifice as a mother to give them as much as I can to make sure they are molded right.

2) All aspects of My writing career has taken up what little free time I have left. With me being a person who likes to throw all of herself into something that she likes, being with a man would frustrate me because I can't do it at this time. I want a best seller in less than one year, a distribution deal in two and a movie deal in three. I need to focus all my time and energy towards those goal and I can't properly focus anymore extra time on anyone else other than my children.

3) Single life has spoiled me. Yes, I know that sounds silly and childish, but I've been divorced and a fantastic single mother for three years and the only adult in my house. My children are so well trained to the point that I got the suckers getting the remote even if its two inches away, bringing me water when I don't feel well and washing my clothes, hanging them up and doing the majority of the housework. Yeah, call me a slave driver, but I know once I get a man I'll have to work and the thought at this time does not appeal to me. I'll have to actually devote time to him when I don't want to, I'll have to get up in the middle of the night and swig of bottle of mouthwash so I'll always have great breath, I'll have to wash up and do my hair and not sit in my own beautiful funk for two days.

Love would be worth all of this, but I'm not ready to fall in love. I don't want to and I do everything in my power to avoid this because I really don't want it. Love is not like an immunization shot. I don't need it in order to be well. I feel that as long as I love me and the good God that put me on this earth at this moment and at this time, I really don't need the extra love that a man can give me. Physical love, you ask? Well, heck that ain't nothing that my hand can't handle and Emotional love? Yeah, it gets lonely in the middle of the night, but I usually go into a threesome with Ben & Jerry Karmel Sutra and HELLO I'm all right as rain. I don't mean to be sarcastic or hurtful, but I've come to adjust my life around having no man and coming to the conclusion that I probably won't be having any man until my kids get a little older (I want to the baby to get about ten before I even start sniffing for love).

The good ones (such as you) might be taken, but whatever God is willing for me, then I'll take at that time, but for now, I'm really just happy being alone, lonely, desolate...but still very very happy.

Again thank you for your compliment and wonderful words. I like that I make an impact with my words, feelings and outlook to a man and make you feel that I'm a pretty good female to be with. I'm deeply honored to have been considered as "Your gurl."

Why Men Cheat!

Posted by David Zinczenko
on Thu, Nov 30, 2006, 10:34

Of course, we all know that while men and women are both capable of cheating, it's often the guys who have the biggest problem keeping their belts firmly buckled. And we all know that no matter who it's with, why it's done, or where the after-hours canoodling takes place, cheating is-most of the time-the ultimate relationship death sentence. But instead of dwelling on what happens after the cheating takes place, one of the ways to perhaps prevent infidelity is by knowing a little bit about why men stray. I'm not offering them as excuses, merely explanations as to what happens in that brain (and other body parts) of his-in hopes that you might be able to prevent it. Here, the top reasons why men cheat:


http://health.yahoo.com/experts/menlovesex/2/why-men-cheat

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