Keep in mind if you don't know me before you read this , I love me some Brian McKnight. Loved him for over twenty years and don't know how to stop loving him. And also keep in mind this is my first concert that I ever went to because I never could afford it or I didn't have a beau to go with.
Lot has happened over the weekend. I think My world turned upside down and rightside up all in two days.
Friday, the beau took me on the yacht with the rich around the city. Since I'm a pretend extrovert (cause writers really are introverts) I couldn't help opening up my mouth and making friends.
I haven't been on a yacht that big since my days in college, but actually this on was pretty cool, so I was in awe of everything.
I got to sit down at this table with really nice people and ate these appetizers that OMG were melting n my mouth.
Anyhoo, the beau left me and went to speak to co-workers and he seemed terrified to introduce me to them. I was really pissed about that, but my poker face held up and I kept it to myself.
So Saturday, I got depressed spending all night paying bills. Hated it!
By noon I was broke all over again and couldn't go grocery shopping for the food my sister had eaten out of house and home.
Still was bothered at the beau but of course the poker face and my ability to pretend it doesn't matter was holding up very well. Why you ask?
He had tickets to see Brian McNight. Yeah, you know i was keeping my mouth closed. Call me silly and shallow but if you know me, you know how I feel about Brian. (trembling hard just thinking bout him and his tight shirt azz, LOL.)
Sunday was the concert and I told myself i'd address the fact about the not introducing me to his work people because I had the impression he wanted to take this to "the next level."
This negro (the beau) started off on a bad tip when they announced Brian McKnight was coming on soon.
"sit your f-ing azz down! you're acting like all the other ghetto ho's jumping up and screaming! what the hell is wrong with you."
Now girls, should I have been angry at those words.
He goes on to use the B-word and the Whore word a couple of more times and said "I'm not putting up with that shit tonight."
I made the I'm not listening signal to my ears by waving my hands in front of his ears. this was brian McKnight and he knew I loved this man until the meat falls off my bones. was he smoking crack or did that one beer he drunk just get to him and make him act like the real azz he is.
You talk about ruining my freaking night! I haven't been called a b and whore so much since the ex-husband and you know what happened to that SOB.
I couldn't even enjoy my first Brian McKnight concert because i was so freaking upset.
In the end - at the end of the night - I broke it off with him. I told him I never wanted to see him again.
Yes, that's extremed, but I didn't walk out on a marriage with three kids to go through all that all over again.
I could give a rats ass that you work at a good job and you think you're a good man. If you don't like me for me whether we're in public or not, what the hell are you with me for?
That SOB almost made me walk out on a Brian McKnight concert.
Can you believe that SHYTE?!!!
I wanted to punch him in his MF face so hard !!! Damn I had to fight the Onyx in me girls. Lawd you don't know how much I wanted to act the damn fool up in there.
He thinks he saw a ghetto chick screaming at Brian McKnight he almost saw a very deadly woman. I was envisioning ripping out his spinal cord through his throat.
After I laid down and slept my anger off, I got up and tried to work on my live story Emperor's Heart. Not a damn word came out and I was pissed as hell that this buttwad messed up my creativity flow.
So I found my phone where i've downloaded all my favorite Brian McKnights and listened half the night and then by this morning, It hit me.
I'd like your opinion. Do you think I was right in walking out? Quitting? Breaking it off? He treated me no better than a dollar store skank. We aren't going to mention that he pulled up to the curb near a pond full of water that I had to jump to get in the car and then when I got out of the car, he pulled up to the muddy part so I ruined my heels. Nor the fact that he walked ahead fast knowing i had heels on and just acted like i wasn't there as we walked to the car when he knows whenever i walk with heels I like to hold on to his arm. Nor the fact that he shoved me to head out after the concert like i was some damn child.
I refuse! REFUSE to be treated like that. And if it means being by my darn self, then so be it. I'd be happy with myself than with someone who doesn't like me in public, doesn't respect me as a grown azz woman, and couldn't show a lick of passion to save his azz.
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I feel that the did the right thing. You DON'T have to put up with shit and that is exactly what that was. He didn't have any respect for you as a woman and if he didn't want you to meet his co-workers then he fronting on you like he is ashamed he is with you. So, you can hold your head up high and go on with your life. A much better man will come along. Best believe and pray to GOD about it!
Dang, girl. You had quite a weekend.
I always hesitate to give girlfriends any advice about their mens (that's right, I said mens) because they usually end up mad with me instead of the real culprit - that dude who ain't treating them right.
But since you asked...
There were so many red flags in your post that it ain't funny:
1. The way he treats you in public.
2. The way he talked down to you.
3. Inconsiderate things like the puddle and the walking too fast thing.
4. Reluctance to introduce you to his peers (What's THAT about?!)
Based on all those things, I think you were right to dump him.
However, if this is a man that you just feel you GOT to have, then, girl, you better love him with your eyes open. Meaning, know what he's capable of doing and how he's capable of treating you so that there will be no surprises in the future. So that you'll be able to guard your heart more better.
Also know that staying with a man like that removes the privilege of constantly complaining to your friends about him. Believe me, they will grow weary of hearing about his bad behavior and grow mad at you for continuing to put up with it. They will wonder, why is Sylvia complaining about something she's allowing?
Just my 2 cents.
Suprina
Hence Suprina he is the ex now.
i just dind't like that sour feeling in my gut whenever i tried to say well maybe i do like him enough to put up with him being an azz.
I couldn't hold my poker face anymore and i don't think i'm hurt that i dropped him like a bad habit, i'm just upset at my self that now i have to start all over again.
grrrrr.
Just remember that starting over ain't the worst thing that can happen to you, Sylvia. Even God had to come up with a plan B (which was an even better plan) when Adam messed up.
Plus, you've been married before. You know that that mess we put up with BEFORE marriage (cause we so in love and all) only gets worse AFTER marriage.
Again, I think you made the right decision.
Suprina
You did the right thing. That negro had the nerve to act ugly. Don't feel bad about him because there are plenty of fish in the sea. God has made someone just for you so keep holding on and keep your head up!
You are a good woman and I would have done the same. At least you got to see your dream man Brain McKnight. Thank Jesus you are not a FOOL. No woman should take SHIT from any man. Good for you broke it off with asshole, I am so PROUD of you. You are my Hero. Because baby like saying goes, "YOU CAN DO BAD ALL BY YOURSELF!" Stay strong and don't let this setback get you down, YOU ARE MY HERO!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just want to add my 2 cents.
First, I'm sorry you had such a letdown this weekend. But I believe (I could be wrong) that this is not the first time your man has shown you inconsideration. Maybe it wasn't to this magnitude.
First, you have to look at yourself and decide what YOU deserve (as a woman & as a mother). How much do YOU love yourself (& your kids)? I say your kids too because they will look at you & model themselves on how to treat others & how they deserve to be treated.
If you feel YOU are entitled to better, then do NOT settle. If you feel YOU are not deserving, then accept this, go into it with your eyes open & remember "leopards do not change their spots."
I am not a pro at this relationship thing, but I've been married almost 25 years & I think one of the things that has kept us "tolerable" & not having any immediate plans to divorce(lol) is that we try to consider how each other would feel in most situations. IT'S CALLED RESPECT & pretty much every thing else has fallen in line behind that.
That's my 2 or 3 cents.
Gail F.
I am proud of you Sylvia, because the hardest thing for us women in relationships is to say no we are not going to accept this BS.
Be proud of yourself that you were aware of what you wanted. He thinks to highly of himself if he was acting like that, he should have been happy that you were going home with him instead of Brian Mcknight. LOL
Gurl, you know she did right. You asked the question then addes his assinine behavior. Nuff said.
Girl you are better than me... he knew before going to the show how you feel about this artist... everyone has something that their a fan of... do you say that to him when he's yelling at the TV screen at a game that he has no effect on the outcome... I would have cussed his ass out and left him right there and sat in another seat... you know no one sits in their right seats at those things anyway...
and yes i would have cut him off... that was blatant disrespect... if he was going to be embarassed by that then he should have gave you the tickets for you and a friend to go..
and I love me some B. Mcknight too girl so I know what you mean... I saw him last year and he had his sons come out and do a little set... They are just as talented
You too.? We will fight over Brian. Did you see him this summer when he was at The River Walk? I cried when he serenaded Gina on 'Martin.' A couple of years ago, he was here at The Marriott with Michael Baisden. He is so talented and he's really approachable and down to earth, too.
But, on the date subject- Where is this guy buried now?!!!
tor: kepeing my head up and staying strong but a sistah's getting tired of looking at empty pillow.
cinquetta: i'm glad i can be your hero.
lyk: (I deleted your first comment but not all the way because it was a duplicate.) there are two sides to every story. i don't discount that and i can only let people do to me what i only them to. i should have communicated to him the way he spoke to me when it bothered me the first time. And i think your cents (sense) are worth much more than that.
paula: thanks for being proud of me. i just wish it had ended on better terms or i had done more the make sure it dind't get to this culmination of awfility (i know, not a word)
shai: yes i did.
eb: thank you and i still feel it was blatant disrespect.
cL: b. mcknight is the only man i'll fight a woman over so bring it on. i'm taking the earrings off and getting the vaseline. and the guy isn't buried but he's not around.
I would love to take the time out and apologize for my sad show of a brother i don't know. Thank you my sister for keeping it together. It would have been a lost on your part if you would have showed a different color. You did him a favor by going anywhere with him. But I might ad you received the better end of everything.--------------BRIAN MCKNIGHT?---------------- The guy was lucky you stayed in one area. I went by myself. I screamed, jumped, song all the songs WITH BRIAN AND HIS SONS, talk to his sons back stage, ended up with a migraine as I was waiting to meet Brian, lose my voice, had to lay down in the lobby because I didn't want him to see me looking a tricky mess, I didn't get to meet Brian. But, BELIEVE ME; I had the chance. And I think I; NO, I know I had the best time at any concert in this world. I don't care if the sky would have fallen. After the concert maybe we can talk, but doing the concert, I didn't know anyone. YOU DID FINE! WHEN YOU RECEIVE YOUR BLESSING FOR A GOOD MAN IT WANT BE SOMETHING YOU LET GO. IT WIIL BE BETTER THAN WHAT YOU HAD IN THE PAST. MY SISTER I THANK YOU AGAIN FOR BEING THE LADY YOUR MOTHER REARED AS A CHILD GOD CREATED. LG
i really did feel like that when he was on the stage. my heart was bursting over and over again.
you explained my anticipation and excitedness about having brian in front of me perfectly.
i just wanted to scream, hollar and so much love. lawd. da hap mercy.
thank you so much for understanding my wonderfulness about Brian McKnight.
If you ever meet him, you tell him i need more tickets to his next concert to make up for what i experienced.
LOL
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