Please don't give a Joe Wilson Apology when you make a mistake

Being sorry when you have done something majorly wrong is the worse feeling of all, but accepting the apology from someone who had done something majorly wrong is even harder.

Last night GOP Rep Joe Wilson was "over emotional" and heckled President Obama during his speech by shouting out "liar."

WTH!

Yes! That's was I said. Was this high school? No. Was this middle school? No! This was a political floor where people have sweated blood and tears to build and respect and in one instance of impropriety some nutshell decides to disgrace the government arena.

Here's my rant I posted on CNN about this:
Public office at all times should be held in high regard especially for the person sitting in the office itself.

PUBLIC office appearances no matter the situation (whether its in a good or bad situation) should never EVAH be negative.

I don't think I can accept his apology at this time, because:

1. It wasn't heartfelt enough (Issuing a "statement" to the press about your emotional state is like Mike Tyson holding up a sign after he bit the ear off with I'm Sorri on it. (And yes I meant the small i on the end).

2. Oh please. An apology to just the president? You owe the people who put you in office an apology and people who are in like positions such as you for disgracing a public office.

3. I'm not feeling it. Really i'm not. you meant it and you're going to have to do a lot more to convince me you really meant this apology.


Now if you are a person that did something wrong there are a million and one articles on the Internet that can tell you that sorry is a five letter word. What you have to remember is action speaks louder than any words you could possibly use. You must also remember another word: Patience. It's going to take a lot of time for that other person to get over being angry with you. If you try to rush it, and get angry because you'll make the situation worse.

Be sincere in your apology. No letters, no facebook status messages and no tweets please to the other person about how sorry you are. Only a verbal apology immediately once you realized you have wronged the other person.

After that you must wait before you can feel like you are forgiven. You don't necessarily have to walk on eggshells, but be mindful of that other person's fragile emotional state.

HOW DO YOU FORGIVE?

Now as I say with all my posts, I'm not an expert. I haven't had any formal training but I have my PhD in life experiences. For this situation, the person that has to forgive must. Did you hear what I said... I said, that you must forgive them.It could be the worse thing in the whole world, but if you hold on to that anger, you will not only hurt the person around you, but yourself emotionally and others as well. Let it go!

After the person apologizes, take a breather. I usually say the maximum breather in any relationship when the person has a right to be angry is 72  hours. Yes, girls, I'm being specific because guys like time periods. That means cut out all quiet treatments, attitudes and all other forms of "i'm going to get you back because you did or said something bad to me."

If you really want to be with this person or have to deal with this person, just do it. Don't allow your person angst to get in the way of getting things done.

I know its hard. They hurt your feelings and even if their apology sucked worse than sour lemons, just find a way to get through it and get on with life.

Don't like one Joe Wilson monkey stop no show.

And that's all I have to say about that.