6 Shortcuts to Happiness in A Relationship

I just saw a movie called Shortcut to Happiness with Alec Baldwin, Anthony Hopkins and Jennifer Love Hewitt. I enjoyed it clearly as it was an up to date remake of The Devil and Daniel Webster.

Alec Baldwin's character was a writing willing to sell his soul for success, but before the devil got into the thick of things, he was writing his best work. In the work, he realized one thing that he pointed out in the voice of the character: There Is No Shortcut to Happiness.

Anything that's worth anything is worth the hard work it takes to obtain it. We all know nothing in life comes easy.

Unfortunately we all want simple and fast solutions to make our life easy.

I say all this to let you know that the title of this blog is just to get you into reading what I have to write. Amazingly, you're still reading because you want to know will I offer what I've promised in the title.

I will.

I'll even tell you I will make six ways to the shortcut. Six you say? Why not seven or five?

Don't know.

Keep reading.

1. Use Music

Music is known to change a mood and it makes an excellent stress relief for any situation. Music therapy has been used many of times in health situations. Couples have to remember that music draws us together and can make the tension between the two of you less harsh. Don't know where to start. Get the best of Al Green, light some candles and just hold each other in the middle of the floor. Trust me, the mood will change drastically.

2. Incorporate Laughter

Laughter is the best medicine. It's a favorite phrase for anyone and that's because it's so true. Once we've hit adulthood, we become so serious, but as the Joker has said, "why so serious?"

Although we're still having issues over heath ledger's version of the joker. http://loveablackwoman.blogspot.com/2008/07/baby-daddy-you-pray-you-never-have.html

Laughter also has been known to create health benefits as well.

Even if you have to force laughter, find a joke, have a tickle party, try it out when there is too much stress, or you just need to change the mood.

3. Change Your Perspective

Instead of concentration on the big things you don't have, concentrate on the little things. I'm always preaching about appreciation.

Even last week in my socials, I sent out a quote that stated (paraphrasing) If we concentrate on what we don't have, we don't appreciate what we do have. (The person I quote name escapes me know, sorry.)

Even through this financial crises, we're constantly trying to keep up with the Joneses, but we have to remember we really can't. There will always be someone who has more than you or who has a better mate, but you can't dwell on that. You've made a committment to the one you're with and you must fall in love with the positives of your mate. Fall in love with those traits on a daily basis and you'll eventually change your perspective and start looking at the positives in life and in your relationship.

4. Do a Good Deed

I love random acts of thoughtfulness. No really, we're always trying to make up for the bad things we may have done to others we love, but I can tell you, random acts of thoughtfulness certainly can put you up a notch on the ladder to forgiveness. But don't just practice good deeds for your mate because you did something wrong. Do a good deed because it's just nice to do. Helping your mate in parts of their lives that has nothing to do with you, creates a positive emotional bond with you and brings feelings of happiness to the person for you. Having emotional well being in a relationship is wonderful. Bringing a smile to another person's face is contagious.
From a kind word to a large gift, you have the power to make your mate smile. Infect your mate now!

5. Meditate

Having some type of spiritual connection to your mate produces and even stronger bond in your relationship. Meditation, spiritual prayer, yoga, excercising together, or hell tantric sex... http://loveablackwoman.blogspot.com/2008/11/tantric-sex-question.html

whatever it is, doing something together creates a spiritual connection to your partner.

6. Choose Joy

It's so easy to walk away. It's so easy to give up, but as I said in the beginning anything worth having is worth working for.

Being together is a lot of work and too much work causes stress.

Tensions build fights and crises happens and one decision can lead to something bad in a relationship.

Choose Joy. Choose to be happy and not let the stress get to you, which will prompt you to make bad decisions.

Decide every morning to choose joy. Remember all the shortcuts as before and fall back in love with your mate each day and choose that you will be happy. think about 1 things that will make you happy with this person and try to accomplish that goal by the end of the day.

Celebrate each day with your mate as if it may not be another day. Whether its a minute, an hour or a day, find time for happiness.

Just my thoughts and rants from How to Love A Black Woman.