At a recent relationship seminar I learned that most people are willing to take the spouse back as long as other did not know of the affair.
Now with all the crap hitting the fan for Tiger and his wife (a seemingly very private couple), a VARIOUS women are coming forward to admit having a relationship with him, this makes it more and more difficult for the couple to work out their problems.
And it's even worse with the public attention.
For the public it's the same as watching a car accident and right about now, they're pulling out the bodies. We stand around and speculate and blame of course the man.
Yet, with neither party saying anything I really don't think we should judge a man by what he has done.
If neither party is running to file the divorce papers, I really think we need to keep our TMZ nose's out of it.
I've been asked lots of times if I found out my partner was cheating on me what would I do and it became public:
I'd answer as such:
- If we were dating and there's no ring on this finger then I step. I drop him like a bad habit and don't look back.
- If we're married, I have every biblical reason to step, but I'd first evaluate the friendship between us. Would we still be good friends once the hurt is over with? Would I still want to be with him and share experiences with him? And would I be willing to bet our friendship that he would not do this again?
I'd really think about that before running down and filing the papers.
Of course during this time, I'd lay the guilt out on him thick and get some really nice queen treatment until I've made my decision.
I know tha sounds wrong, but I'm just being honest with myself and you.
Now it's your turn. Would you take a partner back if the affair became public?
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I personally wouldn't take a partner back whether the cheating becomes public or stays private. Infidelity is one of my non-negotiables, along with various kinds of abuses.
Me ending the relationship wouldn't be about trying to get back at the man or tryna punish him for cheating. For me, it would be about maintaining my self-respect, being able to look myself in the mirror, and tryna stay out of jail.
I know me. I love HARD and I give every relationship I'm in my all. To discover that my guy got greedy even though he has a good thing at home could prove devastating to me (if I let it) and some folks might get hurt. For everyone's sake, it's better for a sista like me to just separate herself from the situation altogether and start anew with another dude who knows how to be faithful to a good woman.
Just my 2 cents.
I'm not black and I've been married for over 24 years to a loving, faithful spouse. Really, I just don't want to go there.
As for Woods. Ugh. As for anyone cheating on their spouse. Ugh. It's such a violation of trust.
As I watch the many discussion boards on cheating, I'm floored by all the difference of opinions everyone has. Thanks for commenting guys.
One and done for me. No questions asked. And my GF has the same attitude. Cheating is the only non-negotiable in our relationship. We can weather all other storms but that one.
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