Bad food not to eat to get in the mood

Thought i'd help out with the help of David Z.

Of course he goes into more detail about what you can and cannot eat.

But i just wanted to talk straight up about what foods not to eat.

first one is White Chocolate. As sensuous as this looks and tastes (It's awesome than dark on strawberries) it's really a false sense of chocolate. (It's not really real chocolate) And you're really supposed to eat the dark chocolate for the anandamide and phenylenthlamine, release the endorphins

Energy drinks
causes the testosterones to drop - whether you're a man or a woman. Never ever good when it comes to keeping the libido up.

tomatoes
This was a surprise. So don't throw these in the spaghetti for dinner if you really wanna bump uglies later on after eating. The lycopene and phytofluene decreases testerones - and you know what that means. Try buttered pasta and a sirloin steak with vanilla ice cream . The protein gives you power and the phoshorus boosts your libido.

soda
I don't think soda (or Detroiters like to call "pop") is good for anything. I had a friend's grandmother who used to say, soda was the devil's drink and I'm starting in my own age to truly believe that. LOL. PRetty much like an energy drink it works the same way and the all the other ingredients are just bad for any other part of the body - man or woman.

I think I was addicted to it for a long while until I did a Daniel Fast a year ago. Now I pretty much only drink it unless I really have to - there's nothing else to drink; not even water, or I'm having a major migraine and I can't find my pills. In which case, i choose Mountain dew and usually half a cup will suffice.

I'm even trying to take soda out my kids diets as well, slowly discouraging them not to drink it because the acidity on their teeth and the things it will do to their body in the long run.

Back to the subject:

soda is bad. very very bad.

Like I said, David offers a lot more tips, but this is just a break down of what not to eat in order to get the libido up!

To read more of what Dave Z. has to offer, go to:
http://health.yahoo.com/experts/eatthis/34343/best-and-worst-foods-for-your-libido
take head. . .

Let Go! Let Flow!

Got that from the movie Something New. No this post isn't about Interracial Love. It's really about life itself and living it. In the past weeks I have been quiet, I've actually been learning about life and everything that it has to offer. Thanks for your support in staying with me during my learning lesson. I did miss blogging a lot. A whole lot. I was often saying a lot to myself I need to write a blog, but it never came to fruition and days turned into weeks, weeks to month. Like Chris Gardner said yesterday a lot, "Can you feel me?" Oh yeah, I met him yesterday and boy was it an enriching life experience. We shared stories about being a single parent and oh lawd, the man hugged me – TWICE. It was a great reward for all the battles I had to fight to be where I am today. He was proud of me and it was a moment I won't forget. Something about a hug from Chris Gardner makes a person feel… so good. Don't know if that's what gave me the drive to want to blog again, but I just thought I should when I finished with Sunday school, I grabbed my laptop and started writing. The first thing that popped out was: realized when u just let worries go, stress follows and you can really enjoy life I want to expound upon this for a moment, so hear me out. As India.Arie states: Life is a journey, not a destination. Life should be an experience not something we allow to just happen. We should be engaged in life. Yet one prevention is when we begun to worry about what's going to happen next. I think I had begun to – a lot. A whole lot. So much worries that I just had nothing to speak about … an you know how rare that is. Well it was happening. I guess because I was unsure of things and I was in unknown territory. Explanation: I picked up a new beau. Well, I think I spoke on that before. He's a nice one and yeah, women look for shyte. We really do. I worried about things that hadn't happened yet, I worried about what was to come, what he wanted, what was going to happen next. I worried about what he was doing when I wasn't around, I worried about what he would do if he really saw me, or really understood me. I worried about what he thought of my kids, or what he thought of my writing. I worried about what I was going to do if I fell in love, and I worried about what the kids thought. I worried worried worried worried worried til I just wanted to quit. Quit him, quit feeling, quit thinking quit life. So my bestest bud, Tavi, told me to just pray. I knew that's what I should have been doing, but the worry had clouded judgment and rational thought. It's amazing how it just gets in like carbon monoxide and like an invisible mouth eat what's good about the whole situation. What's good? I met a really nice sexy good looking guy who really really likes me and just wants to enjoy the pleasure of my company with no strings attached  and no drama. That's what I asked for. It's it funny when God gives you what you want, you question the gift. That's very confusing about human nature, but it seems like we've done this since the beginning of time. I laid the worry monster down Thursday. Had an operation. They call it follicular removal. We won't go into where it happened, but good lard, I have to have nine more of these and I'm not happy. Being in a lot of pain and just having to breathe through it really makes a person see that life ain't noting to just sit by and let it happen. Not that I was close to death or anything like that or I could have died, but you really taste what you've been missing. After the operation, I rested and then beau treated me to a night befit a queen. (Personally I don't think the queen in England had this much enjoyment ever) and it really made me feel silly of all the worries I had. Let go. Let flow. That's what I should have been telling myself, but I had to have a lot of pain driven into me for twenty damn minutes in order to see this lesson. Why is it that we have to be tortured to really understand and succumb to life lessons? That's another confusing human nature I won't understand. Back to the subject: Friday, I woke and opening my eyes, I was thanking God. It was like I exchanged eyeballs with someone during the night and I could see things differently. I'm liking the new eyeballs. And they help me breath better. Maybe because I don't have that monkey on my back anymore. I'm thinking right now about that scene from shutter when the man went through the whole movie wondering why his neck was hurting all the time and at the end realized why. That's how I feel, but I've laid it down and my shoulders feel fine. I feel good and life is so much fun when you're enjoying the journey.

Man With 21 Kids!!!! It's called VASECTOMY

At what point do we really persecute men and make them take responsibility?

I know this blog is not to bash men, and that’s not what this post will be about.

But first let’s analyze both parties – which I blame.

The Man: After five , he should have been running to the doctor to be neutered. Yes, he was young , but it’s called put it in a bottle and save it for later or adopt if you really found a woman that he wanted to share his life with. Or better yet, save yourself.

Just because you hold the key to making life, it doesn’t mean you need to share it with the world. Some things need to just be kept to yourself.

I think there needs to be a better way to persecute men and women other than their pocketbook, because this way is not working in the way of punishment or prevention.

The Women (did you understand the plural). When he came up to you and you found out that he had over three, why didn’t you run the other way. I don’t care if he looks like he’s got three legs – RUN HEIFER! RUN!

The only sufferers in this situation are the children. And no one seems to think of them. No one ever seems to think of them until it’s too late.

A Love Language Minute: Teamwork in Marriage

July 16, 2009 Teamwork in Marriage Who cleans the commode at your house?  Has it always been true?  If you are the one who cleans, are you happy with this arrangement?  Who takes care of what in a marriage?  This is the question that often leads to conflict.  Many couples do not agree on these issues before marriage.  They wake up six weeks into the marriage to discover that no one is cleaning the commode.   If this is a trouble spot for you, let me encourage you to take action.  Make a list of all the things that must be done on a regular basis.  Put your initials beside the ones that you think are your responsibilities.   Ask your spouse to do the same.  Then negotiate your differences.  Try it for six weeks and see how it works.  Re-negotiate if necessary.  Remember that you are a team! Who does the taxes at your house?  I must confess that role is mine in the Chapman household.  It's not a task I relish, but I've done it each year since the beginning of our marriage.  Why me?  Why not her?  In our case, it's at my wife's request.  She doesn't mind writing numbers as long as they are on the face of a check. But when it comes to balancing the check book, she says it hurts her stomach. Each of us have skills and interests, likes and dislikes, and these tend to guide us as we decide how to work together as a team in marriage.  It really doesn't matter who files the taxes, but it's nice if we can agree. Agreement brings harmony.  That's what marriage is all about - husband and wife working together for the common good. Adapted from The Marriage You've Always Wanted by Dr. Gary Chapman. To find out more about Dr. Chapman's resources, visit www.fivelovelanguages.com.   News & Updates Be the first to get exciting updates on Gary Chapman's books, radio programs, and conferences through this brand new online community. Visit the blog. Join the conversation--get live updates, access exclusive photos, and give Dr. Chapman your ideas. Become a fan of Gary Chapman on Facebook.    ____________________________________________________ Building Relationships Radio Saturday, July 16: God's People in Hard Times This has been one of the most popular programs of the past year--a message Dr. Chapman gave at his home church titled, "God's People in Hard Times." What is the purpose of suffering in our lives? How do you make sense of the seemingly random negative things that happen to God's people? Don't miss this stirring message. Tune in to Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, the weekly radio broadcast brought to you by Moody Radio and Moody Publishers. Listen live online Saturday mornings at 10 a.m. CST at moodyradio.org, check your local radio station, or download free podcasts and get more information. Featured Book Coming August 2009! The Marriage You've Always Wanted ________________ ________________ Gary Chapman Conference Schedule 8/1 - Louisville, KY 8/8 - Maple Grove, MN 8/15 - Roxbury Crossing, MA 8/29 - Cabot, AR Click here for more info.   ________________ View an archive of past emails. Give your feedback. © 2009 Moody Publishers Gary Chapman photo © Boyce Shore & Associates Forward email

It's Tough Being Single, So Leave Me Alone by Rambling Raven

http://www.apooobooks.com/tough-single-leave-rambling-raven/     The Latest from APOOO Bookclub Its Tough Being Single, So Leave Me Alone by Rambling Raven Posted: 13 Jul 2009 05:30 AM PDT Its Tough Being Single, So Leave Me Alone by Rambling Raven If one more person offers me advice on how to meet Mr. Right I am going to scream. I have had it with well meaning people trying to "get me back into the game" by either giving me unsolicited dating tips or actually hooking me up with someone. I try and try to tell folk that I am just fine being by myself but some just won't listen. It's enough to make a girl want to run out and buy an entire pint of Dolce de Leche ice cream, and eat it all in one sitting. A dear friend of mine believes that no woman is actually happy unless she is married or engaged to be. This friend has made it her mission to find all her single friends mates. I use to think that her antics were very funny, that is until she set her sights on me. At a recent cookout this gem of a friend politely reminded me of my age and that my biological clock will tick on out if I am not careful.     READ MORE AT : http://www.apooobooks.com/tough-single-leave-rambling-raven/

For Michael J: I Never Dreamed You'd Leave In Summer

As a last tribute to Michael Jackson to my blog and my memories, I wanted to send this out and say to him...

You gave the world a peak a heaven when you shared your talent, your passion, your life and though there are those who questioned your idiosyncrasies, you still were an extraordinary person that no one will ever be able to emulate.

Thank you Michael. You are gone, but will never be forgotten.

For all my readers, I still say, give me flowers while I live.


And that's all I have to rant about death. . . for now.

Mistaken Identity Day - Celebrate it by getting your copy!

Mistaken Identity is about a woman who finds inner strength being someone else, but may be the fool in the end for her deceit.   For years Dana has loved Jerome from afar and for years Dana has watched her twin sister take everything she has wanted – Even Jerome.   So when Dana is given the opportunity to take her sister's place on the wedding night, Dana jumps on it – or more like jump on Jerome. Yet, her deceit to her brother-in-law may make her the fool in the end.   Purchase online and at  www.Amazon.com    Paperback Website: www.amazon.com,    Ebook Websites:  w http://ww.lulu.com/sylviahubbard   Paperback: 172 pages Publisher: Hub Books Literary Service (February 1, 2006) Language: English ISBN-10: 0977443515 ISBN-13: 978-0977443512   REVIEWS   Buckle up for this wild ride! Sydney Molare'   Hold onto you panties, ladies! Mistaken Identity is a scorching ride that will have you wiggling in your seat and screaming for your lover by the end of the first chapter! Beautiful twins and a wedding set the stage for this erotic thriller. Denise, a frigid but gorgeous schemer is about to be married for all the wrong reasons-money and prestige. Her mirror image, Dana, is the total opposite-quiet, unassuming but a whiz at business. These twins have always been competitive and Denise thinks she has the upper hand when she snags the man of Dana's dreams as her fiancé-sexy professional football player, Jerome Lott. The table turns, however, when Dana tries on Denise's gown and Jerome barrels in and makes love to who he thinks is Denise just before the nuptials...and Dana allows him. Can you feel the tension? Jerome realizes his mistake too late but the flames have been ignited and he wants more Dana. Embarrassed, Dana tries to extricate herself from the now delicate situation but Denise blackmails her into "assuming her role" for the honeymoon and beyond. Dana reluctantly agrees but sees no way out. However, Dana is speechless when it is revealed that the actual ceremony was a sham and the "real" marriage will be performed on the honeymoon. And guess whose name is on the birth certificate presented? Dana's. Denise, meanwhile, changes her mind and decides she wants to be Jerome's trophy wife...minus the sex. Jerome is frustrated and turns to Dana to vent his frustrations. Dana tries to resist but eventually their "in-law" status progresses into a satisfying relationship for both. As the story moves along, I am at first puzzled by Jerome's mood swings and the question he always asks Dana, "Can you love two people at the same time?" I am further enthralled when, after a night of lovemaking, he proclaims he is not Jerome Lott. The plot thickens when Dana discovers she is pregnant with twins...but there is a problem-they have different DNA. Who is really whom? I'm not telling. Mistaken Identity captured my attention from the beginning. Sylvia Hubbard is a master of the cliffhanger and many times, her "hangers" left me screaming in anticipation. Her twists and turns are unique, the tension between the characters palpable, and the sex steams up the room. Even without the sex, the suspense will keep you turning the pages. And the last few chapters...they just blew me away. The situations are real, the characters make you believe in them, the sex is sizzling and the outcome will make you green with envy. I can't speak for anyone else, but I sure wouldn't mind changing places with Dana. You will not be disappointed.   What A RIDE!!, By  Vida "ABookGroupie   I'm so happy I stumbled across this book on Amazon, the other reviews are VERY true. The story is about twin sisters Dana & Denise, Denise is engaged to Jerome a attractive NFL player. Dana is single and has a secret crush on Jerome. Denise decides before she walks down the aisle with Jerome that she does not want to marry him and decided to allow her sister Dana to marry Jerome. I will stop the story there because after that the story will take your mind for a ride. The sex scenes are well done and the ENDING with have you fantasying for more. WHEW!!   Double the Pleasure - Double the Pain - And Still More By  Leon Mintz "Author of Memoir of the Masses   Within the first few pages, the reader senses the drama mounting. By the end of the chapter, passion drains down the pages. Faster and faster, I found myself flipping thru the pages. Mistaken Identity showcases the shallow rocky relationship of a set of twins and their aggressive/passive quest for the ideal husband. Hubbard captures the night-and-day emotions of Denise and Dana well. Though Denise is definitely "the evil twin", Hubbard shows realism by revealing Dana's "falls from grace" and skillfully uses them to shape Mistaken Identity. Very good, very erotic. Mistaken Identity leaves me wanting more!     Click here for more reviews   Purchase your copy from Amazon   This product Mistaken Identity by Sylvia Hubbard (Paperback - February 1, 2006) $13.99 $13.29 In Stock 33 used & new from $8.49   Purchase your ebook | click here   Sylvia Hubbard Author, Blogger and Founder of Motown Writers Network http://sylviahubbard.com http://loveablackwoman.com http://motownwriters.com http://michiganliterarynetwork.com http://aaeln.com (African American Electronic Literary Network) http://hubbooks.biz   Author of Romance & Suspense and Internet Marketing for Writers & Business   NOW AVAILABLE: Secrets, Lies and Family Ties order your copy now Coming Soon: Tanner's Devil www.redrosepublishing.com

Fw: The Dating Bible @ TheFrisky.com

I seriously enjoyed reading this article and wanted to share it and house a link to it on this sight to never lose sight of what they were saying. Although it's seriously sacrilegious,I really enjoyed it! Breaking The Ten Commandments In Dating It's a rough and tumble world out there, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. Many of us as children were taught to follow the Ten Commandments, or some version of it, in order to ensure that we become good people or "Leave It To Beaver" neighbors. I can't remember them all off the top of my head, and it would take a real minor miracle for me to recite them all in order, but in general you can't go terribly wrong following them...except when it comes to dating. Maybe the commandments were never intended to cover the tricky navigation of romance, but when you apply the Ten Commandments to dating...oh what a mess you find yourself in! READ MORE AT: http://www.thefrisky.com/site/post/246-breaking-the-ten-commandments-in-dating/

ARTICLE: Listening with the Body

Recent studies have found high correlations between the music that teens are listening to and the onset of sexual activity. Teens who listen to highly sexualized lyrics were twice as likely to engage in sexual activity than teens who didn't listen to that kind of music. While these kinds of studies can't really explain if the correlation is coincidence or causal, the fact that there is a link leaves us to ponder what kind of listening affects us sexually. How do one's listening skills and habits influence intimacy in all ages of life development? One of my favorite lines by James Joyce is "Men are governed by lines of intellect, women by curves of emotion."

This might explain why most women need to both be heard and to hear loving remarks from their partners in order to turn on their sexual feelings, and why many men don't get it. Twenty five years later, I am still training my husband around the kinds of comments and endearments that I would like to hear before, during or after sex. But it is no longer a deal breaker for me because I have realized that his failure to say these things is not a reflection of how he feels about me.

Read more of Listening with the Body

fwd: Used vs. Loved

this is a partial entry from a great blog I like to read called:
It's So Nice To Be Nice

To Read the full post and comment, click here:
http://itssonicetobenice.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/used-vs-loved/

I received a forwarded email recently and thought to share the last couple of lines.
Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful,lovely life…..Things are to be used and people are to be loved. But, the problem in today’s world is that, people are used and things are loved.

The last line struck a cord with me and made me think about some of my past relationships, but I couldn’t help but disagree with the statement.

See, I’ve always believed that we were all created to grow, contribute, and flourish. For this reason, I have intentionally set out to form relationships with people for my own personal gain….in hopes of getting introduced to someone else, a new perspective, a new hobby, a recommendation letter, or an opportunity for a new job.

Honestly, I just believe in exchange. I believe that I’m always getting something from the people I invite in my life or who arrive through happenstance.

read and comment on the rest of the wonderful post here:
http://itssonicetobenice.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/used-vs-loved/