He's Just Not Into Me... How do I know? 7 Ways How A Woman Can Tell You're Loving Her

Men are always asking me what do I want in a man, yet no one has ever what don't I want in a man.

These are certain indications that turn me off, make me not want to lay my heart on the line and just drop him like a bad habit

1. He keeps time. NT does not do in my book. (If you don't know what it is, good for you. If you do, bad bad bad.) He also calls when he says he's going to call, and texts just because to say hello or good morning or good nite. Now I'm not expecting every dang day, but give me something to show you thought of me when I wasn't around. (This is also called passing the distance test.) In this day and age, communication is key and there are too many ways you can tell me you are running late or you even thought of me.

2. You have good eye contact. You're not looking around like I'm uninteresting. You actually look like you want to hear what I have to say or just want to look at me. Most good moments I remember are the things that are not said or the times we share when our souls touched. I really believe the eyes are the doorways to the souls and if you don't give me eye contact, I get suspicious.

3. Touching out of bed. I'm good for this and I think in some ways I find myself being too affectionate. I like to touch, but most times the only time you may touch me is when you want to institute sex. It's not fun then. Physical flirtation turns women on. Touching the safe areas when we've already been sexually together is more of a turn on than touching the areas that you feel stimulate me. And then the almost touching is really cool. Like its taking all you have not to touch me. Whowzer!! Also the touching you do to me isn't just going to lead us to the bed. Now I'm not saying don't touch me sexually at all. Just that thoughtful touching is very cool and that you want to really just touch me.

4. Be receptive and enthusiastic. Not overly happy or hyper and rambunctious, but participate in discussions. No yes and no answers. Give me depth. give me lots of things to discuss and don't be afraid to hear what I have to say or take offense at my opinion on things.

5. Getting over it or wanting to settle to stay around. Getting angry is going to happen. I'm going to say and do something that just gets on your last freaking nerve. But what shows me that you really like to be around me is that you want to settle the argument and/or just stay around at least ninety percent of the time rather than leave just to get away. The importance of working things out shows me that you really want to be with me other than what's between my legs.

6. I see a side of you no one else sees. If you're a jerk in front of other people and me, then I know you're not showing me your true self. (Not that you're a jerk, but that was just an example.) You're strong in front of everyone else, but show a different side to me. You're serious around everyone else, but you crack me the hell up when we're alone. I know that he's feeling me and showing me things he wouldn't show to others. This is important to me because actually some women take longer to show how she feels when she doesn't' feel you're showing you.

7. Goodbyes are always more special than hellos for any time in a relationship. In this day and age, when our time is short hugging longer, kissing longer and touching longer is very important than those stanky little pecks and smooches. Give me just as much energy as you gave me when you said hello gives a great lasting impression.

Any past beau of mine can tell you the moment I wasn't getting enough of this, I was sure to let them know and if I still wasn't getting any, I looked at the advantages and disadvantages and then dropped them like a bad habit.

Yeah I know I'm wrong for that, but I've always been of the mindset, why should I keep you around me, when you're not making me happy.

Now as you can see at no time, did this list have anything to do with presents, it was more of affection and time. I think that's what I'm finding out that I need in order to be shown I'm loved.

That and service. Ha ha!!

I even liked that the magazine Marie Claire pointed out that the seriousness of how much he's into me isn't measured by the grandeur of dates he takes me on or how much he spends on me. None of these have to do with words he says to me (but how he says it) nor does it really have to do with the time he spends with me (but how he chooses to spend that time.)

Just figuring out my own five languages of love and I like that.

Are there signs that I missed on knowing he's just not into you?