As we bring on the New Year and a lot of friends talk about what they don't have anymore in terms of men and what they are still hanging on with, i've combined a lot of theirs and a little of mine together to put together the title of this blog.
WHEN HE ONLY WANTS ONE THING. It's weird how it only came to ten of them. I really hadn't planned it. I was watching a couple of sorry men romantic movies (and even in the end some of them didn't get what they want, but settled.) Got a little mad and for a second, I was pissed at Brian McKnight for making me believe his lies ... it was just a second.
He doesn't call or come around when Aunt Dottie is around.
He only calls or texts you after 6pm.
The only conversation he gets excited about and/or he has to speak with you about is your great night together.
He finds an excuse not to come over, when you offer to cook dinner.
He's not affectionate unless it leads to one thing.
You spend more time with him in a bedroom than you do on the phone or out and about together.
The following areas have not been touched or kissed by him in a very very very long time.: The back of your calves, the middle of your thighs, middle of your back and neck, your forehead, the outside of your upper arm, your collarbone - yet these are very high erogenous zones and he wouldn't know it if it slapped him in the face and he was reading this right now.
The last time he really made you laugh... wow, yeah, it's that long.
Dates outside of the bedroom are fewer and are between.
Fourplay becomes oneplay because you have to warm yourself up on your own because he jumps right to it.
I'm often reminded as I write this post of what Steve Harvey said one time:
When you find yourself the smartest one in the bunch, it's time to get yourself a new set of friends.
Also I am hearing in the back of my head by my ancestors: Be a priority and not an option.
No one can make you feel bad about yourself unless you let them. I tell myself that often.
I try to make concessions a lot for guys and I think that's my one weakness and my one fault. I blame the economy and all the bills they have to pay and I blame the fact that they just got a bum deal, but then my evil side pops out and says, this is a grown ass man and if he wants a grown ass woman, he should be able to spend more time with you and actually not use the excuse he doesn't have gas money, or he should be able to take you out on dates and not use the excuse that we might need to go dutch.
I really don't think i'm shallow when I tell a guy, there's no romance without finance. Gas money, date money, hell, can I even get a dollar menu before you try to take my panties off?
W.T.H.
Hell, he should want to be with you just as much out of bed as he does in bed, so stop enabling him. Warning, the same thing you did to get them is the same thing you need to do to keep them.
Hence, I have little to no attention now.
Not mad at them. Disappointed in them.
So with that, I've decided to speak up for myself and not allow people to treat me as such. This has wrought many of a break up and a lot of ... Why you gottta be like that?
oh well.
Happy New Year. Let's see what this one brings.
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Some men miss so much about a woman when they are only after one thing. Great post.
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