How to get over a 24 yr relationship?

I spent one morning on Answers at http://www.answers.yahoo.com/. In my quest to become an expert I decided to gift my wonderful advice and experience to others who are out there in the world struggling and wondering what to do next. Here is my advice to someone who asked: How to get over a 24 yr relationship?




I'd love your feedback on the advice I gave and also what is your advice to this question.


One moment at a time.

  

Don't think of the future as years or even months. Look at the future as going from moment to moment, because you need every precious one to focus on getting farther and farther away from that person you spend almost a quarter of a century with.

  

There's no quick fix. It''s not at the bottom of a bottle or at the end of a needle. Nothing can ever be taken or done to make the soul stop hurting. Only time will heal all wounds.

  

I talk about ending an almost four year relationship, but I can't compare my life to yours. No one could. Every relationship is different for everyone and ending the pain may never be all successful.

  

Suggestions to help:

 

  Find a hobby keeping busy is one of the keys to keeping that relationship off your mind. Your hobby distracts in a three fold method of physical and mental and emotional

• Overindulge in something once a month (chocolate, food,too much tv. Spoil yourself for one day by staying in bed and sleeping.)
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• Find one get over song and when you feel that "oh boy i'm thinking about the relationship again" play the song to give yourself hope.
•  Go out with friends and/or family. Don't ever seclude yourself away. That's dangerous.
• Get spiritual. Church, just reading the Bible, yoga, meditation, whatever. Sing to your soul and your soul will lift.
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• Journal. Talking to oneself is a way to re-get to know yourself and know what you want for yourself the next go round if it happens.

 

 I did a "Get over him " series on my blog post that offer other suggestions and I hope the ones I just gave you help.

 

 

Most of all Breath. Know that you are a good person and become a better person. Know that because you still live, you still have purpose in this world. You're not alone in your pain or your journey to healing.

 

 My Daddy used to say if you want to make people jealous for not being with you, be happy. that sounds odd, but actually your internal happiness and peace will shine for all

 

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http://loveablackwoman.blogspot.com/2008/07/7-days-to-get-over-him-post.html