Today we have Holly Vaughan.

For some reason cheating has become a taboo subject and most people I speak with when asked, "If you spouse cheated, would you leave?" the response is almost always yes I would.

Yet, we see in the celebrity couples making decisions to leave, but I don't hear personal couples or couple close by me staying together.

I decided to explore this subject, because I really would like to know if couples can survive after cheating. I'd love to hear your thoughts after in the comments.

Surviving You Marriage After Cheating

By Holly Vaughan

When you decide that you want to get married and that you have found the person you want to spend your life with you make a commitment, share some vows and you plan on staying true to your word. Sometimes this does not always go according to plan. In marriages and relationships in general people can sometimes drift apart, become uninterested in one another or they may find that their marriage has become a routine, Not to fear though this can be changed. When these things happen one or both parties in the marriage may become interested in some one else and may even have an affair.

It is completely normal for married people to find themselves attracted to someone other than their spouse, but if the attraction goes any further than just an attraction it spells out big trouble for you and your marriage. There are things that can be done to keep this from happening, such as keeping your marriage fresh and interesting, find things that you enjoy to do together, remember the person you fell in love with and decided to marry and why you decided to marry this person. IF there happens too be infidelity there are ways to save your marriage if you want this marriage to be saved.

The first thing that must be done is if you have not admitted to the infidelity yet you must do so. By doing this you have taken the first step to rebuilding the trust that has ultimately been broken. Once you have admitted to cheating, you have to make sure that you both still want this marriage and that you will both be able to forgive one another, if you cannot get to this point it will never work.

If the person who has been cheated on or the even the person who has cheated needs space, you must allow them to take it, because without this space your marriage may never be repaired. One thing you may consider is some couples therapy, it does not have to be professional although it is recommended because a professional will have an unbiased opinion will not take sides but will work through the problem and make things clear for each parties side for the other. If you cannot afford a couples therapist, you may want to find a mutual friend that you both know to you to a place where you know what you want from this marriage, and they do not have to give advice but simply let the two of you talk to one another and simply mediate so that you both can get an equal opportunity to say what our feeling, what you want, and to figure out where to start on rebuilding your marriage.

The last thing that must be done, is if you do decide that the two of you are going to stay together is that you MUST rebuild trust this can take years to do after the damage has been done, but in doing so you have to remember that no matter what you must leave what has happened in the past and never bring it up in the future, if you cannot do this you have not forgiven the other person and you will never be able to mover forward in your marriage.

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