Switching Gears! @ Lindsay308's Blog

I was genuinely surprised to see in one of my Google searches someone spoke about my relationship and single parent blog, How To Love A Black Woman today.

Lindsay308's Blog

She spoke very eloquently about Happily Every After: The Essence of Black Relationships.
You should bump over there and check her out. Subscribe to read more. I really enjoyed myself...

http://lindsay308.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/switching-gears/

Mardi Gras Charity Singles Auction Fri, Feb 26, 2010 @7pm on Belle Isle

Meet Your "Dream Date" at the Holiday Meals On Wheels

The Belle Isle Casino til 10pm

Light Hors d'oeuvres will be served

Bidding starts at $25.00

Auction will begin at 8:30pm

Dressy Attire

No GYM Shoes/Jeans

Please RSVP by calling 313 446 4444 x5227

Celebrating Fathers and their impact on our community June 10th thru 11th

Although I'm a single parent, I do understand the impact of a father's impact on children lives. I was raised by a great man and I think when they made my dad, they broke the mold. This brings me to Celebrating Fathers and their impact on our community. Bringing good men back into home is a vital importance for our well being and we should encourage any and all attempts made. So I bring you this wonderful opportunity to help out a great event in Detroit in June. I hope you join us and author Leonard Pitts. http://www.drugfreedetroit.org/samy/constantcontact/celebrating_fathers_sponsorship_packet.pdf Rev. Denice Nixon Partnership for a Drug Free Detroit 313-876-0769 Forward email\\

Monday Morning Motivation - "Three Things To Watch on Your Way to the Top"

Monday Morning Motivation   "Three Things To Watch on Your Way to the Top" For many, attaining success is the ultimate goal.  But success is so hard to measure or quantify because it means so many different things to so many different people.  So I've replaced the word success in my vocabulary with the word victory because for me victory means going forth in excellence and winning the highest honor.  I don't mean winning in a competitive way but more so in a fulfilling way where everyone wins. In preparation to appear on the Victorious Voice Radio Show the host, Brooks J Young, sent me some interview questions.  One question in particular stood out and has resonated with me ever since.  She asked, "What are 3 main things to watch out for when striving to reach victory?" This was my answer... 1. Your Words-The power of life and death is in the tongue.  Not only could negative talk be detrimental to those listening, but it is harmful to the person who is speaking them.  Many of the things that we are living now are manifestations of what we have spoken in the past. 2. Your Actions-You never know who is watching you and aspiring to be just like you.  Use that influence for good and not evil. 3.  Your Intentions-Make sure that your intentions have the best interest of yourself and others at heart.  Most gifted speakers and writers have the gift of persuasion which when misused can turn into the curse of manipulation. Let me elaborate... As a person who has been blessed with the gift of influence, you are always being watched.  You have the gift of influence if you are a parent, teacher, older sibling, mentor, or if you are simply one of those people that just has the "It Factor." Having the "It Factor" means that there is just something about you that draws people to you.  You simply enter a room and your presence is felt. When I say that you are being watched, I mean that people look to you to see what they should do. I learned that I had the gift of influence when I was at a point in my life where I was making poor choices and the people around me began to follow suit. It was at that point that I realized that I needed to start using that gift for good and not evil. Influential people also have the gift of persuasion.  It is for that very reason that they must closely watch their intentions.  The gift of persuasion can be a powerful catalyst for change, but when misused, it can easily become manipulation. Finally, if people are always watching you, then they are most certainly listening too.   This is why it is so important that we watch our words.  Here are some examples... When it comes to how your words affect others, consider this... If a mother constantly tells her son, "You are just like your no good daddy!!"  After hearing it so many times, in so many ways, I can guarantee that her son will become just that. When it comes to how our words affect ourselves, consider this... I wrote a poem called 'Fat'.  It talks about how I kept saying, I'm fat, I'm fat, I need to lose weight, and things of that nature....before I knew what happened, I had gained 30 pounds and when I looked back at pictures dated to when I began saying it, I was not fat at all.  So, more important than watching what we eat is...watching what we speak! When you are striving for victory watch your words, your actions and your intentions. You never know who is watching or listening. Now, will you use your gift of influence for good or evil?     Monica Marie Jones The Literary Loft www.monicamariejones.com Upcoming Events TONIGHT: Marketing and Motivation Mondays with Monica Marie Jones Radio Show! 8pm EST.  CLICK HERE to Listen Live!  SATURDAY: (February 27th) Cardio Kickboxing and Hustle Dance Combo Class 2pm to 5pm at Rhema Health Care (17800 Northland Park Court, Suite #103, Southfield, MI 48075)  Visit the EVENTS PAGE on my Website for more details! As Always...THANK YOU for your continuous support! Forward email

The Shelby Show! with Relationship Expert Shelby M. Hill featuring Sylvia Hubbard tonight @ 7pm

Sylvia Hubbard- Writing with Purpose The Shelby Show Date / Time: 2/16/2010 7:00 PM Category: Women Call-in Number: (718) 766-4841 www.blogtalkradio.com/theshelbyshow <embed src="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/BTRPlayer.swf?displayheight=&file=http://www.blogtalkradio.com%2ftheshelbyshow%2fplay_list.xml?show_id=885803&autostart=false&shuffle=false&volume=80&corner=rounded&callback=http://www.blogtalkradio.com/FlashPlayerCallback.aspx&width=215&height=108" width="215" height="108" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" pluginspage="http://www.macromedia.com/go/getflashplayer" quality="high" wmode="transparent" menu="false"></embed> Sylvia Hubbard is a fanatic reader and writer since age six years old. She completed writing her very 1st book in 1999. Sylvia fostered her love for writing through personally founding several literary organizations, which include the Motown Writers Network, the Michigan Literary Network and the African American Electronic Literary Network. Sylvia wears many hats that afford her various avenues to make a difference in the literary realm. With all her 'life changing' interests and prosperous living, Sylvia is also a divorced mother of three children living in Detroit, Michigan. She owes her successful parenting to her own mother, who gave her the much-needed advice in order to be the mother she is today. She guests on The Shelby Show! to share her enthusiasm as a successful entrepreneur, single mother, and accomplished writer for women to understand all things are possible. Visit Sylvia Hubbard's blog www.LoveABlackWoman.com experience more of her incredible talents. www.blogtalkradio.com/theshelbyshow Sylvia Hubbard Author, Blogger and Founder of Motown Writers Network & The African American Electronic Literary Network Author of Romance & Suspense and Internet Marketing for Writers & Business NOW AVAILABLE: Secrets, Lies and Family Ties order your copy now Coming Soon: Tanner's Devil www.redrosepublishing.com Connect with me on Facebook http://facebook.com/sylviahubbard & Twitter.com @ username: sylviahubbard1

Pearls of Wisdom for Wives Ebook Released Valentine's Day

Pearls of Wisdom for Wives:  How to Have a  Joyfully Ever After Marriage    an Ebook  is available for immediate download!    $7.00 U.S.           Click here to view the video discription   or  Purchase now! Join Our Mailing List to receive the monthy Joyfully Ever After Newsletter - Free with your purchase of   Pearls of Wisdom for Wives:How to Have a Joyfully Ever After ebook

Joey Pinkney 5 Minutes, 5 Questions With… Dedan Tolbert, author of What Women Need To Know…But Don’t Want To Hear

Joey Pinkney 5 Minutes, 5 Questions With… Dedan Tolbert, author of What Women Need To Know…But Don't Want To Hear Posted: 13 Feb 2010 09:00 PM PST JoeyPinkney.com Exclusive Interview 5 Minutes, 5 Questions With.. Dedan Tolbert, editor of What Women Need To Know…But Don't Want To Hear (TB&D Publishing) I'm Dedan Tolbert, author of the award-winning novel The Love We Had…, Ask Dedan-Sex, Dating, and Relationships- Volume I, What Women Need To Know…But Don't Want To Hear, advice columnist for 25 magazines and the host of "The Dedan Tolbert Show", which airs weeknights at 9:00pm EST on The TB&D Radio Network. Listen live by calling 646-200-0366 or logging onto http://dedansplace.net. Joey Pinkney: Where did you get the idea and inspiration to write What Women Need To Know…? Dedan Tolbert: My upcoming audio book What Women Need To Know…But Don't Want To Hear will answer all of the tough questions women have about men, dating and relationships. In this book, I don't pacify women by telling them exactly what they want to hear. Instead, I give them real talk answers that encourage self-examination and reflection that will often explain a lot about the uncomfortable circumstances they find themselves in. JP: What prompted you to release What Women Need To Know… as an audio book? DT: I receive hundreds of "Ask Dedan" advice questions monthly from women from all over the world asking questions like why men cheat, why they don't commit, why they can't find and keep a good man and many others. Unfortunately, much of the relationship advice currently being given doesn't touch on the real reasons men do the things they do. Sometimes the truth hurts to hear which is why I decided to make it an audio book, so there would be no confusion about the message I was trying to convey. JP: As an author, what are the keys to your success that lead to What Women Need To Know… getting out to the public? DT: Based on the popularity of "The Dedan Tolbert Show", where we deal with just about every relationship topic possible, my international audience is anxiously awaiting the Valentines Day release of What Women Need To Know…But Don't Want To Hear. In a society where 70% of black women are single and 40% have never been married, people don't need sugarcoated advice that pacifies women by telling them exactly what they want to hear. They need someone who's going to give them a little tough love and touch their souls. I'm currently on a promotional tour to spread the word about this audio book that's being called by many the realest advice anyone they've ever heard. For more information on me, please visit http://dedansplace.net or http://dedantolbert.com. JP: As an author, what is your writing process? How long did it take for you to start and finish What Women Need To Know…? DT: Because this is an audio book, where I'm discussing dating and relationship topics that I'm very passionate about the recording process didn't take long at all. Many, if not all, of the content found in What Women Need To Know…But Don't Want To Hear can also be heard weeknights at 9:00pm EST on "The Dedan Tolbert Show". My goal with any advice I give is to not help women "think like a man" (which is impossible) but instead to help them understand how men think and why we do the things we do. JP: What's next for Dedan Tolbert? DT: Currently, I'm preparing for the Valentines Day release of my new audio book, What Women Need To Know…But Don't Want To Hear which will change the dating world as we know it. There isn't one relationship issue that I can think of that's not covered in this book. Get your copy on Valentines Day exclusively at http://dedansplace.net. In August, I'm expecting a huge response for the re-release of my award-winning novel, "The Love We Had…" Also, this upcoming year on "The Dedan Tolbert Show", I will continue to bring my listeners quality programming they won't be able to find anywhere else in the country. Listen live weeknights at 9:00pm EST by calling 646-200-0366 or by logging onto http://dedansplace.net. "The Dedan Tolbert Show" now has an international audience as has featured some of the nation's biggest celebrities like Nene Leakes from "The Real Housewives of Atlanta", Dru Hill, Jagged Edge, Syleena Johnson and platinum gospel group, Trin-I-Tee 5:7. The Love We Had… was named one of the top 10 books of 2006 by TheWritersInn.com and has become known as one of the best and most tragic love stories of all time. I've also featured several of the world's top best selling authors of urban fiction like, ZANE, Anna J, Miasha, J.L. King, Shannon Holmes , K'wan and many more…  "The Dedan Tolbert Show" is nominated for the AAMBC Award for Best Literary Talk Show. To vote for me, please send an email to aambcvoting@gmail.com. http://dedansplace.net http://dedantolbert.com myspace.com/dedantolbert http://facebook.com/dedantolbert http://twitter.com/dedantolbert askdedan@gmail.com Dedan Tolbert PO Box 18807 Philadelphia, PA 19119 P.S. Join the Joey Reviews Newsletter at http://joeypinkney.com/joey-reviews-newsletter.html. Please click on the banners to learn more about each JoeyPinkney.com sponsor: You need to advertise with JoeyPinkney.com! (Click here for more information.) tagging: book suggestion

7 Ways to Date and 'Stay Saved' on Valentine's Day - The Single Heart eNewsletter Feb. Issue

Sylvia's Note: Even though it's not Valentine's Day anymore, Kim had some great ideas on "staying saved" and I enjoyed them. I hope you will too. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The Single Heart eNewsletter Issue 36 Volume 4 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ It's Valentine's Day - the day when most normally celebrate with a bouquet of roses and a box of chocolates, topped off by a romantic evening which may ultimately lead to the bedroom if the guy is lucky, right? Or so they say. What's a Christian couple to do in a culture that promotes promiscuity and the notion that 'sex sells' with its many suggestive advertisements and other media? In other words, how can a Christian couple date and "Stay Saved" on Valentines Day? I'm glad you asked. In my new book, How to Date and Stay Saved, I answer this question and also explain how to date God's way and in His proper order and how it is possible for a couple to meet, date, and enjoy a romantic relationship while not having sex until after he 'put a ring on it' and marries you. Below I share 7 ways to date and "stay saved" on Valentine's Day. 1. Date in Public. Most people aren't inclined to 'get their groove on' in a public place where the public is watching. Dinner and a movie on Valentine's Day is nice and also romantic. 2. Date to encourage dialog. As you date in public, gather information about the person you're dating. Seek friendship before romance. Constant verbal communication during the date also helps prevent 'holy hands' from roaming. 3. Dress modestly. Valentine's Day is already set up to be a romantic night on the town, so the flesh is already ready to receive something even before the date begins; ladies, don't give it any more stimulus such as wearing a low cut blouse exposing the girls or a super tight 'booty hugging' skirt. That man is already in a trance about how fine you are so don't be a stumbling block to him during your date. As much as we love a nice compliment, focus on dressing modestly yet still attractive and stylish. 4. Turn Luther off! As you and your date converse, there may be music playing in the background, such as during the car ride. Instead of playing "Maxwell" or something else meant to get you 'in the mood' instead play gospel music such as gospel jazz or praise and worship. Doing this sets the environment and it keeps your mind focused on above. I have a saying: Music is like a ride, it's meant to take you someplace, so don't allow the music you listen to during your date take you somewhere you don't want to go. 5. View each other as brother and sister during your date. Would you take your sibling home after a night on the town in order to 'get it on' like Marvin Gaye? Remember that you're brothers and sisters in Christ, first, before you will ever be anyone's spouse or bedroom partner so treat each other accordingly. 6. No 'late in the midnight hour' dating at home. As tempting as it may seem, and no matter how fine he may look especially after he 'wines and dines you' (with sparkling apple juice, of course) on your date topped off with a serenade by the lead singer at the restaurant as your date professes his love for you in front of a bunch of strangers, don't invite that man inside your home afterwards, and by all means, don't go to his place. The night has been too perfect and the holiday is already set to be topped off with a roll in the hay. Instead, after you date in public, once he takes you home kindly thank him for a wonderful night and get inside! 7. If you insist on continuing the date after he has dropped you off at home, call or text. This way you can still verbally communicate with each other and finish your date, instead of having your date come over and you wake up in the morning regretting what went down the night before.   It's Valentine's Day!  If you currently don't have that special someone to have a date with tonight, I encourage you to have a date with Jesus - the Lover of Your Soul!  Spend some extra time in His presence today - not asking Him for a thing but simply worshiping Him for who He is in your life.  Pamper yourself tonight, break out the candles and soft music and take some time to worship the Lord.  In other words, Fall in Love with Jesus all over again! Below is a YouTube Video of one of my all time favorite gospel songs...this brotha really puts his heart and soul into singing this song...click image below to listen and enjoy!   ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ It's Not Too Late To Pre-Order Your Copy of my newest book, How To Date and Stay Saved BEFORE it hits the stores!  Read the first 4 chapters of my book Today, on Valentine's Day, as it will be emailed to you immediately upon receipt of payment in the form of an eBook while the physical book will be shipped to you, hot off the press, on February 28th.  Visit www.DateAndStaySaved.com for special offer video and more information. Chapter Outline: Chapter 1 - What's Love Got to Do With It Chapter 2 - God's Proper Order in Dating Chapter 3 - Dating God's Way Chapter 4 - 5 Ways to Tame the Beast Known as the Flesh Chapter 5 - 2 Things to always do While Dating Chapter 6 - Sex! It's Complicated Chapter 7 - 5 Ways to Intimacy Without Sex Chapter 8 - Testimonials - These Couples Did It!  They Dated, 'Stayed Saved', and are now Happily Married! HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY! Much love in Christ, Kim Brooks Licensed minister, national speaker and author of upcoming book, How To Date and Stay Saved, Black Expressions Bestseller, He's Fine...But is He Saved? its sequel, He's Saved...But is He For Real? and, The Little Black Survival Book For Single Saints *You have received a copy of The Single Heart eNewsletter, meant to encourage, inform, and inspire Christian Singles.  To Subscribe to this free monthly eNewsletter, Click Join our Mailing List button below. If this email has blessed you, forward it to at least 5 single friends and loved ones as a way of telling them, "Happy Valentine's Day" today! Forward email

Monday Morning Motivation - "Why Must We Go Away to Find Ourselves?"

Swag by Monica Marie Jones Price: $15.95 Buy Now   FLOSS by Monica Marie Jones Our Price: $9.54 Buy Now The Ups and Downs of Being Round by Monica Marie Jones Our Price: $9.47 Buy Now Monday Morning Motivation "Why Must We Go Away to Find Ourselves?" Greetings! "It seems when we get to a place where no one knows us, we become most ourselves.  We try new things, make new friends..." The phrase quoted above is the beginning of a commercial about Michigan tourism that captures my attention every time I see it.  Why is it that it takes for us to go somewhere that no one knows us, for us to truly become ourselves?  Think about it.   When we go out of town we let our hair down and do things that we would never dare to try at home.  Sometimes we do things that we may regret, but for the most part we engage in enriching experiences that we would never afford ourselves at home.  If we practiced such behavior in our everyday lives, or on a more regular basis, imagine how much more exciting and fulfilling life could be.  As I look back over my life, I realize that most of the times that I took risks and tried new things that I've always wanted to do, I was somewhere other than here.   I was in Toronto when I got my first tattoo.  I was in St. Maarten when I tried snorkeling for the first time.   It took me traveling all the way to Belize to wear my hair naturally all of the time without worrying about what people thought.  I ventured to Japan without knowing the language.  I've tried escargot in France. I've climbed the Sleeping Bear Sand Dunes near Traverse City, Michigan. While in Mexico, I walked to my desired destinations instead of driving or catching a cab. I dug for diamonds at the Crater of Diamonds State Park in Murfreesboro, Arkansas. So then why is it that when I am at home, I live so safely, and comfortably in my own little bubble when in all actuality, this city has so much to offer? So what is the answer?  Do we get away more, or do we make the most of life right where we are? I saw the movie, "Yes Man" with Jim Carrey while on a flight, and while I went in only expecting to be amused, to my surprise I ended up quite inspired.  The character that he played lived life in such a closed off way.  When he finally began to say yes to some of the simple things in life, it opened up a whole new world for him.  He not only began to try new and exciting things, but he also met new and interesting people, including the love of his life.  It reminds me of a quote that I heard in college that I will never forget... "Life without risk is risky." When was the last time you tried something new? When was the last time you made a friend outside of Facebook or some other online social networking avenue? Why does it take a completely new environment for us to unleash that which is within us? As winter slowly folds into spring I challenge you to make the best of what you have and where you are right now.  Go for a walk around your neighborhood.   Visit a historical landmark in your city.  I've lived in Detroit for most of my life and I've never been to Hitsville USA (The Motown Historical Museum) so that is where my journey will begin.  I will no longer wait until my next trip to explore me.  I'll start right here at home because home is a huge part of who we are, so I can't think of any better place to begin. Cardio Kickboxing with Monica Marie Jones $5 Date: Tuesday, February 16th Time: 6:00pm - 7:00pm Location: Rhema Healthcare 17800 Northland Park Ct. Suite #103, Southfield, MI Feel free to contact us with any questions regarding booking the author for book signings, speaking engagements, fitness classes, or book club appearances.   Sincerely,   The Literary Loft Monica@monicamariejones.com (734) 834-0646 www.monicamariejones.com Forward email