I enjoyed this article that I linked to it and then made comments in the end. I hope to hear what you have to say about rituals you've had in a relationship and how important they are or if they are important to you.
It’s always the simple things that count. Here are 10 rituals to get you started.
Gabriel Lefrancois
Try finding little rituals in your life to improve your relationship.
Try finding little rituals in your life to improve your relationship.
Why is it that we all want to be in a relationship? Because when you strip it down, being part of a pair helps you know that you matter to someone else. Face it, there are millions of people in this world and having a partner lets you know that someone cares about you and that you’re accepted.
This desire for feeling connected all starts right from the beginning when you are born and in your childhood—there’s a need for attachment to a caring figure. When couples come in for help, the biggest problem I see is a sense of disconnection and feeling that he or she does not matter to his or her partner. The question then becomes how do you let your mate know that he or she really is important to you?
Do you remember the movie, Fiddler on the Roof? At one point in the script, the couple reflects on all the things that they do for each other, but then ask, "Do you love me?" For me, this raises the issue that perhaps going out and working all day to support the family or staying home and taking care of the house and kids—as monumental as those tasks are—are just not enough to let the other person know how you feel about them.
This desire for feeling connected all starts right from the beginning when you are born and in your childhood—there’s a need for attachment to a caring figure. When couples come in for help, the biggest problem I see is a sense of disconnection and feeling that he or she does not matter to his or her partner. The question then becomes how do you let your mate know that he or she really is important to you?
Do you remember the movie, Fiddler on the Roof? At one point in the script, the couple reflects on all the things that they do for each other, but then ask, "Do you love me?" For me, this raises the issue that perhaps going out and working all day to support the family or staying home and taking care of the house and kids—as monumental as those tasks are—are just not enough to let the other person know how you feel about them.
Posts
Uncovers the phenomenon of women who love emotionally unavailable men. 
1 people saying something:
I liked this article because as an black woman I've seen how too many of stray from rituals, yet how they can be so valuable in a relationship.
Even ex's that I have, we sometimes still do things that have a ritual value like an annual event, or contacting each other on birthdays, or calling each other by an endearment that's only special to us.
Post a Comment